Trust Yourself

If you're reading this, I'm assuming you have made some bad decisions at least once in your life and thought to yourself "I should have listened to my gut", right? Me too! Except I've stopped counting how many bad decisions I've made.

Some of the consequences I've endured are from my own poor decision making, some were results of someone else's poor decisions or selfishness. However, if I really stop to think about it, if I had stopped to listen to that inner voice (my intuition, spirit guide, gut feeling, or whatever you want to call it), then some of these things possibly could have been avoided. Right? That makes sense doesn't it?

On the flip side, are all things considered consequences of my poor decision making, or are some simply universal lessons we need to learn so that one day we can help others? For example, I chose to be in bad relationships, although at the time I probably convinced myself they were the right person. So, were those relationships a lesson and a growth process for me - and possibly them? Was this an opportunity for me to learn something about myself? Did I need to have the experience of betrayal, and misguided trust in others and myself?

Let me tell you a story.....once upon a time there was this little girl, who was extremely shy, yet inquisitive. She wanted to know everything she could, to the point of being called 'nosy', when she craved knowledge. Throughout her whole life she would sense things about people. There were times she would feel sick to her stomach, or she would feel sad, or she would feel happy and carefree around certain people.

Later in life she would learn that this was her intuition telling her things about these people and situations. Some of these alarm bells going off inside her were later found to be validated. Very scary, yet it validated what she knew and felt inside was all real and not just in her head.

As we get older we tend to shut down the intuitive part of our lives. We are all born with this, we just don't all choose to acknowledge or use our gifts. We allow years and years of programming from society, religion, family (albeit with good intentions) to change and shut down what we know deep down is truth. We can only accept it if we call it things like: "prophetic" in the religious sect, "prayers being answered", "mother's intuition", "moms just know", or "gut feelings". Heck you even hear about 'intuitive eating' nowadays. These are all just different titles for the same thing "INTUITION". These are ways we can wrap our brains around trusting ourselves; otherwise, we tend to make excuses for what and how we really know things. We justify they why instead of just doing.

What we all need to do is first, accept ourselves for who we are - a SPIRITUAL BEING! Second, stop over-analyzing everything. This is the step I'm on repeatedly depending on the situation. Lastly, STOP being so hard on ourselves. Oh my god, we have all made mistakes and will continue to make them.

The key is making it a daily practice to check-in with ourselves. Is what we feel real? Are we aligned with our core values with the decisions we are making? Think of it like exercise, the more we lift weights the stronger we get, or the more we run the further we can run. This is not a perfect art - it's a learning experience and each time we will get stronger and better at trusting ourselves. Our intuition is a muscle we also exercise. Therefore, by actively checking in with our core values and acting upon our intuitive guidance, we build trust in ourselves.